We all do it. Set the intention to start the New Year off right, eat less sugar, drink more water, exercise, make more time for self and get some sleep. These were some of the most common New Year resolutions discovered by the folks at Body Nutrition when they took the time to survey five hundred participants. While these resolutions were certainly not out of the ordinary and conceivably would seem realistic it wouldn’t be until Body Nutrition asked participants to report what they saw as their greatest obstacles, we would learn more about how resolutions get ruined as well as an opportunity to repair them for good.
Out of the five hundred participants work obligations (33%) followed by anxiety and depression (29%) were reported to be most likely to get in the way. Family obligations came in third at eighteen percent. It seems to me, one of the most natural remedies for anxiety and depression (exercise) was heavily on participants minds, as thirty-nine percent indicated this would be the focus in 2019. This certainly illustrates how we often know the answers to our own struggles yet something gets in the way of us really listening to our inner guidance.
As an Emotional Detox educator and founder of the C.L.E.A.N.S.E Method, ® what I have learned is you can’t have a symptom of anxiety without an emotion. While it might seem like your will power would be enough to generate those resolutions into fruition, is it isn’t until you digest the reactivity around the emotions of setting resolutions you will be able to put your wellness resolutions into practice. You see so long as there is reactivity (guilt, shame, fear, anxiety) similar to what the study showed this may undermine your intentions.
One way to change this so you can get those resolutions back into motion is to start paying attention to what you feel more so than what you think. With that said, that does not mean labeling your emotions. In fact, what I have found, is your desire to label your emotions (rather than feel them) is likely to be a reaction.
Instead, I suggest you pay attention to what you feel by noticing your sensations. For example, when asked about healthy food resolutions, thirty-one percent in the survey indicated they wanted to drink more water. Now imagine, you are thirsty. You have two choices, either to think to yourself, I really should or I better drink more water or to notice how your mouth and body feels (dry, jittery, restless). Rather attending to your thoughts, instead attend to your body (e.g. hydrate).
You see what I have learned is it is our thoughts which can misdirect your good will intentions not your body. This is because thoughts are time travelers and for this reason they have a tendency to bring up the past or project into the future. It isn’t until you learn how to be in the present moment (where anxiety cannot exist) that you will be able to develop the where with all to listen, rather than react to the emotions which by the way, are part of the chemical makeup of who you are. As this occurs you get to digest your emotions (rather than resist) and similar to eating a well-balanced meal, getting a good night’s sleep or an uplifting workout you gain energy. This makes you feel more secure and with that stability putting those resolutions into practice seems far less overwhelming
Peace & Love,