Your Daily Energy: Benefits of an Open Mind

Each semester I begin teaching Psychology with a series of questions, How do you know if you have an open mind? Why is it important to keep your mind open and how do you know when you are closing it down? As we brainstorm the answers there is always a little discomfort in the room, not only because we barely know each other but also taking a look at yourself isn’t always easy.

To support my students I give them one of my personal examples. This semester I shared how my daughter chose to make her own Halloween costume.  Immediately, my mind was open to the idea. I knew because I felt interested in what she had to say, curious about the creative process and willingly to let her surprise me (no attachment to outcome). She did an amazing job, pulling it together with odds and ends around the house. Old sheets, glue sticks and some needle and thread were suddenly being put to good use. She did have a few requests from me however, one was glitter, and lots of it and a head band. She and I went to the store to purchase it and it wouldn’t be long after I would get the joy of watching her in this creative process. Although it took her several hours it didn’t look like work. She happily listened to music while I cooked in the kitchen. In that moment, our minds were wide open (in the flow and free).

The next night was Halloween. I noticed she started putting on her costume a little earlier than previous years.  Everything seemed to be going smoothly until I heard her say, now I need to apply the glitter. I believe her exact words were, I need to roll my body in glitter. At that moment, my eyes got wide, I stopped breathing and started thinking (anticipating) the mess. It was almost as if my body was saying alert, alert, you may have a possible emergency here. With a concerned yet firm tone in my voice I said, “Ah, you are going to have to do that outside.” “Outside, said my daughter, it is way too cold out there you can’t make me do this outside.” “Well, you can’t do this inside” I responded. Immediately, I could feel my mind closing like a bridge with warning signs all over it saying, Don’t cross the line.  

She did end up putting the glitter on outside, however, it didn’t matter because as soon as she came indoors it quickly started to fall off and track itself all over the house. To calm myself down, I immediately, went to self-talk, only the kind of self-talk I chose did not work. I heard myself say things like, she doesn’t listen, I am going to have to vacuum before we go out trick or treating, and I am so tired of cleaning up messes. In the end the vacuum did come out of the closet and I managed to put a weak smile on my face, shouting as she whisked out the door, “Have a good time, honey.”

Once she was gone, I felt a bit guilty for overreacting, I missed my open mind, living in the moment, breathing, being creative together, letting the process unfold as is. I wondered how I could have handled it differently. What I learned is open minds are not about being perfect or capturing a hallmark moment. They are about honoring your feelings and the insights of others without judgement. It is healthy and necessary to let someone know your limits. Beating myself up was no different than letting the air (energy) out of my tires.

Here is the thing, I would love to have my windows open year around but that would be impossible with the cold. However, I can maintain my open mind (energy) by gazing out the window and observing what I see. I can also observe the discomfort inside of myself when I find myself in tense or uncomfortable situations. This allows me to balance the art of keeping an open mind while setting healthy limits.

Today, consider noticing the difference in your own energy when your mind is open or closed. Observe without judgment and know it is your awareness (not so much your actions) which brings you the wisdom.   

 Sherianna is the author of six books the most recent being Mantras Made Easy, a simple way to both increase and sustain your energy. Check out her products and services at yourdailyenergy.com and sheriannaboyle.com.

Your Daily Energy Blog: How Would You Answer This?

How Would You Answer This? 

I recently interviewed for a small job. Although it would only take up about two hours of my week, the interview process felt like it was for a forty hour position. Two interviewers took turns asking me questions in a formal conference room, with me on one side of a table and them on another. They did their best to keep the interview light hearted while adhering to the questions on the form.

It would be one question however, which would leave the most impression on me. Perhaps this is one of the benefits of an interview, when answered honestly, they provide a space for self-reflection and personal inquiry.

 The question was, “What are you most proud of?” For a brief moment, thoughts of my children, things I have done, accomplishments would file through my mind. Then I smiled and said, “Well what I am most proud of is I forgave someone who hurt me really, really bad.” It is interesting to watch how people respond to vulnerability. Rather than documenting the answer on paper, both interviewers perked up their eyes from the form, leaned back in their chairs and said, “Wow, that is something we could all learn how to do.”

If you must know, yes, I did get the job. What I also received was a glimpse at some of my deepest strengths and how our inner choices rather than our outer circumstances shape who we are today. What I have found is sure, I am proud of a lot of things but the ones which stick with me are always connected to the way I have chosen love.

Sherianna Boyle

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Your Daily Energy Insight Issue #1

 

Your Daily Energy is weekly insight from author Sherianna Boyle

into the evolution of ourselves as energetic, extraordinary beings.

I recently took a trip with my girls. What started out as pure curiosity has become an annual girls weekend of living on a farm. At the farm there is a small gift shop with beautiful local products, candy and souvenirs. Each year I tell the girls they can pick out one thing for themselves. Within the first few hours my youngest had picked out and purchased hers. It wouldn’t be long however, before she spotteda plastic zipper bracelet and begged me for another. I reminded her that she had already received her gift.

As I took my last walk in the woods nearly one hour before leaving to return home my little one decided to go into my wallet, take out a dollar and four quarters and purchase the bracelet on her own. When I returned from my walk she couldn’t resist the temptation to say, “Look Mama, I have a zipper bracelet.” After sorting out the details I told her she would have to return the bracelet and give me the money back.

Seeing her little face sink, melted my heart and observing all the positive choices she had made all weekend I decided to change the message. After repurchasing the bracelet I told her not to take money out of my wallet without permission however, I was giving her the bracelet for telling the truth.

It would be in the car ride home, twirling the bracelet in her hands, she would begin to feel guilty saying out loud, “Mama, I don’t deserve this bracelet, I am not a good Girl Scout.” This is when I would begin to teach her about her daily energy. “Honey, I said, you told the truth, and that is bigger than anything you could do.” Put it this way, I said, if it were a game, taking money out of my wallet would be worth five points and telling the truth would be worth one hundred. Sometimes we have to do the wrong thing before we do what is right. That is just how, God, made us.”

Now, I taught parent education for six years and co-developed the curriculum still widely used today. I realize the importance of logical consequences and follow thru. However, my insight as a Quantum healing practioner has shifted the way I approach everything in life. What I have learned is telling the truth is one of the ways we free ourselves from the binds of guilt and shame. Truth is a high vibrational act which must be honored. Control on the other hand, holds us back from our power and interferes with our ability to truly connect to one another.

Today, to increase your daily energy consider, noticing what you might be hiding. How might you be taking the energy of someone else without their permission? Perhaps you dwell on the past or are passively giving out consequences by withholding your love. Allow yourself to be honest and know this will help you rise more than anything else you can do.

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